Meet Your Future Self: How to Align with Who You Are Meant to Be.
The Hourglass Painting by Addie Hirschten
I have been getting together recently with my ex-husband. He and I have met a couple of times for coffee. It’s been lovely. We’ve been talking, laughing, and sharing stories of who we used to be and the journeys we have been on to become who we are today. This connection has been healing. It has also been a powerful reminder of who I used to be before I started my healing journey. I remember the deep pain I had inside back then, and the choices that were made based on my childhood wounds that were very much controlling me. I think of that girl I was in my 20s, when we were married, and it is astounding to see the woman I have become thirty years later. It hasn’t been easy.
As I reflect upon my challenging journey of personal growth over the past thirty years that has led me from there to here, a few things come to mind that have made this transformation possible.
I had faith, believing everything was unfolding for a reason and leading me to where I needed to be.
I had the humility and vulnerability to ask for support, knowing I could not do it alone. I leaned on therapists, counselors, mentors, and teachers to guide me out of the darkness, and I did what they asked.
I maintained focus and self-discipline, following the guidance of my mentors with unwavering commitment. Whether they recommended meditation, journaling, breathwork, affirmations, or reading certain books, I followed their advice without excuses, empowering myself with consistent, unwavering self-care and transformative practices.
I became open. I let go of so much of my pain, the need to control, and my old scripts that had me bound. I was then available for healing, miracles, and experiencing myself, others, and my life in new ways.
I became the creator of my own experiences. I took responsibility and ownership in my healing and creating the life I desired, and did the hard work of knowing I was worthy of it.
I was intentional. I had vision and believed in myself to become who I wanted to be. I no longer identified with who I used to be. I decided who I wanted to be and aligned my thoughts, behaviors, actions, choices, etc., to that vision.
I allow myself to experience all the abundance, goodness, joy, and beauty of my life without guilt, and I engage in the present, reciprocal nature of my life, the give and receive, the hardship, and the blessings.
In my work, I’ve noticed that people can have a few sticking points where they feel stuck between who they are today and who they want to be. Some people are unable to envision anything different for themselves. Some people know exactly where they want to go in life or who they want to be, but have difficulty committing to the process of getting there and can be stuck in self-sabotaging behaviors or old patterns that no longer serve. Others struggle with feelings of selfishness, guilt, or unworthiness that prevent them from giving themselves the freedom and permission to be who they want to be and have what they want.
If this is you, know you are not alone! Everyone struggles with something they must overcome to get from where they are to where they are going, to become the person they know deep inside they can be.
I am still working on this in my own life. Since I have years of walking this path behind me, when I feel uncertain, I remember to trust in the co-creative process, balancing being proactive, allowing myself to be led by the divine, and making space for the uncertainty and the mystery of life. My prayer for you is that you discover how to do the same!
Living in this way can be truly transformative. Your future self will thank you! I hope you have benefited from reading this; if you would like any additional help in intentionally creating a life you align with and love, I am here for you!